I think I’m depressed. But I don’t want …
I think I’m depressed. But I don’t want to tell anyone, cuz people already have their own problems, so why make them listen to mine?
I think I’m depressed. I dunno. People see me as the sweet quiet girl, who’s life is always happiness and sugar. They don’t know how much pain I hide every day.
No one does. I don’t even tell my family, cuz they get annoyed with me. I don’t really tell my parents about how I really feel about things. I’m too afraid to, I never goes well. I’m afraid that they’re verbally abusive. I’ve looked up countless verbal abuse websites on the Internet, and they all describe my parents way too well.
All my siblings think they’re way out of line too. But I don’t want to tell anyone. At the peak of their worst behavior, just when I think I need to do something about it, they suddenly act all nice, and than I feel bad for being mad at them. Then later they do it all over again. They’re only nice to me when I’m doing something for them. Everything they “have” to do for me is a chore. I’m always the problem.
As you nigh have guessed, I have a hard time opening up to any I my friends. I don’t want anyone to find out about the pain. Most days I go through some period of hopelessness and self hatred. Sometimes I almost start crying at school. But I never let mysalf show my true feelings (I’ve become quite skilled at this. It almost an art form. Except now it’s like a compulsive behavior).
It’s the only thing I lie about. I hate lying, by I always lie and say I’m okay. I even lied to my pastor last Sunday.
I usually wait till I’m home and then hide on my room and cry, or I cry myself to sleep at night. But lately I haven’t been able to cry, and that scares me.
I just want want someone to hold me in their arms as I cry and tell them everything, and when I start to cry so hard that I can’t talk anymore, I just want them to hold me close and extra tight, and tell me that it’s alright.
CK Oliver 7:56 pm on November 3, 2009 Permalink |
Oh my goodness… your post really hit home for me. I have, fortunately gotten through the worst of feeling like you. But, I do still feel like that occasionally. I felt just as you did when I met my now husband. He went through the fazes of thinking I was nuts, then thinking I was using my depression for his sympathy, etc. He has helped me so much…
My point to this is you have to talk to someone. Do not keep these feelings to yourself. It is not healthy. But it IS normal to feel this way – from time to time. Not continually. Not repeatedly. I am worried that you will hurt yourself.
Even if the thought of physically hurting yourself has not come to mind, treat your depression now. Be proactive in your mental well being. YOU DESERVE IT! YOU ARE WORTH IT!
When I was so depressed, I would call the suicide hotline just to call and talk to an unconditional listener… someone who had no opinion based on anything other that what I was telling them. It really did get me through times when I was considering what other options I had besides hating myself for the rest of my life.
I don’t know how this site works, I am new to it… It says email will not be shared below, but I will put it in hopes that it will go to you, pinkxoxo. you can send me a note or chat WHENEVER.
I don’t know you at all, but the thought of not helping someone who is feeling the desperation and confusion that depression caused me turns my stomach. Too many nights I just wished someone would simply listen and tell me that I was okay, despite what I thought of myself.
I will pray for you, your happiness. Clearly you are stronger than you think because you had the courage to reach out. Doesn’t matter how or who to, you did it. And someone listened. I hope I have been/can be of help to you.
Just remember, you NEED to see a professional. Regardless of how often or infrequent you feel this way. Sometimes we need help friends are not qualified to access, let alone to give.
I hope you will reply. I will be worried that you are okay.
You are not alone.
pinkxoxo 11:01 am on November 4, 2009 Permalink |
Thanks you sooo much Oliver… that helped more than you can imagine. I needed to hear that from someone. You have some great advice that I know will help me…
historygirl02 9:47 am on February 5, 2010 Permalink |
I hope I can get your help too. Lately I’ve been tired all the time, I never want to do anything, I’ll cry for no reason, and I constantly feel ill and achy. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I think I’m depressed and I really have no idea what to do. I feel like I can’t tell anyone. I feel like I cannot connect with people anymore and that I have no friends. I hope someone can give me advice, I’m at a loss here. I feel like I can’t tell my parents because they don’t really understand stuff like this. Thank you
alliex3abnormal 12:03 am on June 2, 2010 Permalink |
i have alot of the same problems as historygirl02 but i told my mom and all she said to me was that i should speek to my doc then i told her i dont like talking to people which is not normal for me. i thought she would notice that something was wrong with me but she didnt and she still hasnt. i dont like going to school anymore. i feel like my friends dont want to be with me and i just dont know what to do…
artsy56 9:47 pm on November 5, 2009 Permalink |
Oliver, that was excellent advise. Pink, I too went through the same thing. I am still in the healing process. It IS very important to talk things out to someone like a pastor, someone you can trust to give you godly advice. I know how difficult it can be to open up to people. I am a leader at my job and I always feel that I need to be the one that has it all together. BUT what makes you a stronger leader is the ability to put your guard down and be able to open up and confess you are having a hard time. I know its hard to trust an email from a stranger saying they will pray for you but I promise you that I will, right now as a matter of fact. And judging from all that Oliver said I bet she will be praying for you too! Your going to be just fine, just hang in there a bit longer and take one day at a time.
MarinaRose25 7:16 pm on November 28, 2009 Permalink |
pink, not that the above two didnt give u great advice because i feel like what they said really helps, but theres a little difference between you and them. theyre adults, your a teen. their perspective of depression might be a little different than yours. im sure they dont have the constant of verbally abusive parents…seeing as oliver is married, so they dont feel the constant badgering from people who are supposed to protect you. i totally understand that seeing as i’m going through that too. and for me, my sister doesnt live with us anymore, so its basically me against them. its a horrible feeling to be the constant problem of your parents, believe me i know. but i was never more thankful for anything as i was when i talked to my school counselor. it may sound really unnecessary to you, and kinda lame, but believe it or not getting your issues out there to someone who is ready and willing to hear it takes a load off your shoulders. she even recommended another person for me to talk to and this has helped me get through so much. you really need to talk to someone like that and i guarantee you’ll realize that youre an amazing person who deserves to find a future and be happy.
abnormalgirl 9:59 am on March 31, 2010 Permalink |
Dear PinkXOXO
I feel i have the same problem. I know i am depressed, but i don’t want to tell anyone. I have tried to tell my friends what’s going on, but they just don’t understand. Sometimes i just have to get away from people before i burst into tears. I feel that everything in my life is always crashing down and that i never can build anything up long enough. When i go to bed i am afraid to cry in fear of discovery. It’s so easy for other people to tell you to get help, but it is so much a different story trying to do it. If you nare a shy person like me then you just don’t want to show people your feelings. It is so hard some days to pretend everythings normal. Sometimes you just snap at people and get upset really easilly. I don’t want other people to worry about me, as i am usally the one doing the worrying. Sometimes you feel like you just want to scream, but you can’t and so you just have to deal with it, but that is not good advice. My friends say i give good advice, but lately i am just so confused i can’t give anyone a straight answer. So this has not been advice, but reassuranse that even if you think you’re all alone you’re not. Hope things pick up
Anonymous 12:55 am on January 24, 2012 Permalink |
Wow when I read this I felt as if I posted this. Sadly I am dealing with the very same issues. It break my heart to hear that you feel this way because I myself know what it’s like. I’m sorry I don’t have any advice but just try to stay strong